Are you at cause or effect?
Wednesday, February 10th, 2010I’m always asking myself this question and I thought it might be useful to share it for others who might get the same benefits I do.
Here’s what it means:
1 - Being at ‘Effect’ means from your perspective, you are experiencing the effect of things happening in the world and you need to be ready at all times to deal with whatever life throws at you. Usually when you’re at effect, you have thoughts such as:
“it’s tough right now because of the economy”
“other people are making things difficult for me”
“If it wasn’t for X, Y or Z…… I’d be more successful”
“If only I had more X, Y or Z….. things would be better”
“I can’t see how things are going to turn out well for me”
“Success isn’t coming my way”
“My boss is making my life hell”
“My partner is making me unhappy”
These are the things that can go through your mind when you’re ‘at the mercy’ of the world and its challenges.
2 - Being at ‘Cause’ means you think that you are the cause of the things that happen to you and around you.
In this case your questions are:
“How did I make this happen?”
“What am I doing that’s attracting this?
“Why am I choosing to react this way?”
“What is the reason I am choosing to feel this way?”
“Why am I choosing to feel bad about my boss?”
“Why and I deciding to feel bad about my partner?”
“I think the economy will make things harder for my business, so what must I do differently?”
“Why am thinking about negative things instead of positive when I know that’s a bad choice?”
“What can I do to put the odds in my favour?”
“What can I do to attract success?”
“How many ways are there that I can get the results I want?”
“Do I have a strategy for getting motivated when I slip into a poor mental state?”
I’m sure you can see the difference - It’s HUGE and makes ALL the difference in the world.
If you’re struggling with your online business and feeling like ‘everything is against you’ or ’success isn’t coming your way’, take a few moments to ask yourself - “What am I doing to attract success to me?” or “How can I change the way I do things so that they’re easier and more likely to succeed?”
When you realise that YOU are in control and you create your results (rather than ‘they happen to you’) you’ll stop thinking about why some people seem to have all the luck, and why other people have success - you can be sure they’re not getting it by letting it happen to them, they’re rolling out the red carpet and turning on the success magnets and attracting it like there’s no tomorrow.
The big difference between the two positions if you didn’t already spot it a mile away is that from one position you have no power - things happen to you. In the other position you have all the power in the world and there is no situation that leaves you unable to expect a better future.
When I’ve traveled I’ve seen people thriving and succeeding in the most diverse situations, that many of us would naturally think would make you give up hope. It can mean the difference between happiness and depression.
In relationships it means you’re always in control of your emotional happiness and while you can let people in and be loved, you’re under no illusions that you can only be happy if they behave in the right way or do the right things - your happiness is your choice. Happiness is a process where you’re constantly deciding whether you want to feel happy - when someone doesn’t put out the trash - you only feel bad if you’ve given yourself a set of rules that says in this situation you should feel bad. The same applies to love - YOU decide to allow yourself to feel loved based on the filters you have.
When you put yourself at ’cause’ - you have control of your life and your results.
So, whenever I start to feel bad or worried about something - I just ask myself if I’m at cause or effect. I’ve been doing it long enough now that as soon as I ask myself I already feel better because I know from past experience that I always end up realising feeling bad isn’t the right choice and doesn’t make sense.
If you want better results for your business - put yourself at ’cause’ and get real about what you’re doing and what you expect to be the results of that, and whether you need to rethink or adapt your current strategy.
At the very least - you never need to feel about about it.
Andy
I’m Andy Henry,
I’ve been using the Internet for marketing purposes since 1999 and I’ve used just about every method you could hear of.
I’ve created this blog so that I can share what works and what doesn’t with anyone who’s walking a similar path and doesn’t want to have to relearn the lessons I learned the hard (and long) way.

